FAQ: When is the right time to meet a man when you have children?
Honestly, the best answer I can muster, is when you value yourself enough to know you are a total package.
FAQ: Am I a total package without the biological parent involvement?
Yes, you have children by ANOTHER man, but the dynamics of that relationship did not work and it is unrepairable.
FAQ: What to do when I am ready to date?
So, here you are seeking a companion who is man enough to handle what your past relationship could not. Lets be frank. That strain relationship fell strain for a reason rather the relationship was on the brink before children or the weight of responsibility of children was the straw that broke the camels back, your past relationship failed. As a result, you do not have to stay single. Conception of children by a man does not mandate your stay.
FAQ: Why do structure of relationships matter?
Just to give insight on myself, when I conceived children with the men that were in my life, the delivery of my children meant I became less than human, or at least that is how I felt. I also was not desired because my view point of life changed. I didn't feel loved or have a welcome warmth to motherhood. In fact, my parents were upset. Which was understood because my children were conceived out of wedlock. My first child's father either didn't believe I was pregnant or was too drunk to understand. Even after the father of my child was aware of my pregnancy the father of my child insisted it wasn't his. After my daughter was born he still denied her and tried to label me as selfish. Life went on for me. I moved to Florida and God blessed me to be around people who showed me different. I brought my daughter into the world with family I hadn't seen in years. It was surreal because the family who was in the delivery room I last seen when I was a child. I appeared out of nowhere grown as ever, pregnant, like HI. I can imagine that was a rude shocker.
FAQ: Is relationships worth repair?
I left the relationships because instead of bunches of love for delivery of life into the world, I received reluctance. I was called selfish, told, "I didn't know what I was doing", the child isn't mine, and no show. Complete opposite of what I thought a faithful twenty year old would receive. I didn't allow what I received to jeopardize the life I would give to my children. I went through times of hurt. I often asked myself what did I do wrong. Guess what the answer was? I treated momentarily people in my life as permanent people. Permanent people as optional. In other words, the momentarily people were people who were passing through my life. I gave to them my time and loyalty. Where as the permanent people were people that rode the waves with me and I figured they would always be around. Nonetheless, I am still here and haven't given up on love.
FAQ: How do you keep your sanity?
I have come up with this very true statement: I am a total package. A man cannot date me without my children. To love me is to love my children. I know, there are men who are unacceptive of this idea because the child or children are not his and he may want to have children. But that is where the saying, "I am a total package" come to play. The relationship with another man will take time it should be of joy and feel like light is luminated into everyone's space. So, now I ask, when is the right time for the man I met to meet my children?
TTYL,
MommyNMeTours 💋
